so I’m 17 and I’ve never had a girlfriend. now it’s not because I’m ugly because i get hit on quite often. I just believe that i need to really like someone before i ask them out. i guess flings just aren’t my style and i try not to base who i like on appearance. i guess I’m waiting for someone to show up who i genuinely like, but there is no one in my school that i feel like i have the least bit in common with. they all seem so stupid like the type of people who don’t care about anything concrete and they are content just watching stupid stuff like the hills and the real housewives of whatever and listening to the crap on the radio like lady gaga. now don’t get me wrong if you watch those shows it doesn’t mean you are stupid, but when your idea of cultured is watching the Italians from jersey shore that’s a different story. i guess I feel like I’m just too mature like I’m surrounded by a bunch of middle schoolers. now don’t get me wrong i don’t mean to seem like I’m so sophisticated and mature i don’t mean to seem like I’m better than everyone because i’m not i just want something real. and the last person that i was interested in well lets say it don’t work out. should i settle for someone i have no feeling for and see where it goes from there or am i doing the right thing? i just feel like I’m so inexperienced that when i do find someone i like they’ll be put off by it. i mean i haven’t even kissed anyone i feel like such a loser.
I feel the same way dude i just broke up with my first girlfriend and we took eachothers virginitys. I seem like im way to mature for anyone in my highschool since she was a college girl now. Try to talk to some older girls.
keep it that way unless u want a desparate zero. the good ones are to wait for
well it means your time isnt right. it has nothing to do with your standards…
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Naw bro don’t worry about it. If that’s your style then thats your style. Don’t sacrifice your beliefs or morals or whatever just to say you’ve done this or that. If you wait for what you’re looking you’ll be much happier than if you’re making out with a girl who you have no interest in.
Gosh, you remind me of a boy in my highschool. He was the last boy friend i had, (i was his last girl friend) and that was two years ago. He doesn’t date anyone, but hes handsome, smart, athletic, polite, everything a girl could want. we didnt last together long at all, only about a month. I think he’s just looking for someone he hasnt found yet, some one that doesnt go to our high school. I think its perfectly fine, and i actually admire him a lot for it. don’t settle. keep your standards high. trust me, the girl who finally does make you happy wont mind the inexperience.
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Well actually, i think you’re doing fine bcuz wat’s the point of dating someone if u dnt like them….congrats u seem like a smart guy
Don’t get unpatient; soon enough you’ll meet a grl who is worth your time
I can relate, because i have a similar attitude…however i have had bfs…
~Good luck
**Marisa
High standards are good standards. Just keep looking for the girl that interests you.
You don’t need to be worried about inexperience. If you and a girl start dating, it will be more so because you love each other for your personalities than anything else. I don’t think she would be put off by such a tiny thing such as inexperience in dating.
And a house that can fly with the help of a kazillion balloons is definitely a chick magnet.
So long, and don’t give up looking for that girl!
youre just mature for your age, it’s finnnneee.
if you’re happy like that, keep it up. i agree it is kind of pointless to date someone unless you really actually like them. however, we are teenagers. think about it, it’s not impossible, but it is very unlikely that the person you date in highschool is the one you’re gonna marry. and you have plennntttyyy of time for real legitimate relationships when youre OUT of highshcool and pretty much everyone in highschool just dates someone because of their status or, “hes soooo hot like omg!” they don’t actually like them. an it’s even funnier when they say, “omg me and my bf have been going out for a month but we are in LOVE he is so hott <333″
ha.
if you want to kiss someone just to get it over with just do it! (UNLESS you want it to be with someone special. but think about it nobody’s first kisses are special. i guess they are at the time, but you know, they’re young and stupid too…) anyways, i guess you could go out with someone who doesn’t take relationships seirously, so its a lusty kind of relationship that means absolutely nothing. or get a friend with bennefits. that’ll give you experience :p
haha alright hope this somewhat helps you.
Hun no need to rush. My advice to you would be to try someone out not jump into a relationship but try to get to know people you may find you have a lot more in common then you thought. This is not to say that you are gonna find the right one at 17 just that if you explore your options you will learn what you like and what you don’t and whatever you do don’t settle for less.
My fiance was always single and a virgin until met me at 18. He’s not ugly either, he’s actually the most handsome man alive. Now we’re 21.
There’s nothing wrong with this.
I say wait it out! It’ll be worth it!
On another note, even though you didn’t ask, lol:
SAVE SEX UNTIL MARRIAGE, I know this sound cheesy!
But I’m not kidding! It’s so worth it in the end! Making love is way better than f*cking.
I wish I could have saved myself for my fiance like he did for me. I’d give anything to have my virginity back for him. I used to cry wishing I was a virgin for him.
no, you sound great. you are completely right. only ask a girl out if you like her. thats cooler than being a player. just be a good friend to some girls and then if you get to the point where you like her alot as a friend, maybe more than some of your guy friends, then ask her out. dont take a relationship too fast either. dont get a girls hopes up then figure out you dont like her.dont kiss her too fast:) haha good luck!
OMG. everything that you feel like is me. i sware. haha i actually asked this same kinda question on yahoo answers and i didnt even get any good answers…but anyways i think you should wait for someone who you truly like. you sound like a kind and sincere person..sometimes i feel like just going out with some random guy that would ask me out but then i think “well hes so fake and shallow so it obviously wouldnt work out cause im the exact oposite”..so i feel like your at the same level as me..ive never been kissed either so im glad to know im not the only one out there…just take one day at a time and eventually the right person will pop into your life
oh and btw I HATE JERSEY SHORE!!!! everyones always like omg its so good…its flat out stupid
Find someone who shares your interests. Join a club. Get a hobby. Don’t worry so much about your inexperience or about finding someone. Focus on just being good friends. Then, if you feel comfortable with someone, see if they want to take the friendship further.
Just be your self or you could try dressing in a leather coat grey shirt blue jeans and sneakers i know that most girls like bad boys but that’s mostly with cheerleaders try going for a sport like foot ball i know that cheerleaders love football players and if you become a football player you’ll become way more popular and you’ll be getting invited to many party’s and eventually a cheer leader or any other girl at one of those party’s will ask you to dance or go out so there’s lot’s of choices in the world I hope this helped!
should i settle for someone i have no feeling for and see where it goes from there or am i doing the right thing? Redcorn thinks you doey the right thing by waiting. Instead of worrying about this, try instead to remember that you are still VERY young and have so much time to worry about this in long-life later on. Focus on improving yourself, learning new things, and working on getting to where you want to go in life… You should not settle for someone who you have nothing in common with as this will only be a waste of time for you, and will potentially hurt the other person when you decide you can’t stand them any longer.
i just feel like I’m so inexperienced that when i do find someone i like they’ll be put off by it. i mean i haven’t even kissed anyone i feel like such a loser. No one is going to feel this way, no one worth anything anyways… Believe it or not, when you find the person that you would like to become better friends with, and/or have a romantic relationship with, they will be MUCH happier knowing that you are the type of person who made such a good decision as wait for the right person.. and that you aren’t the type of person who just messed around to be messing around…. Inexperience is GOOD. I hope this helps Carl.