Question by YesThereIsAGod: Does My Birth Mother Have Bi-Polar Disorder?
I met my mother when I was 17 as she gave me up for adoption since she was a teenager when she had me. I started to get to know her and would soon find out how nutty she is. For example: she will be kind and loving one day and then she’s mean and suspicious with a bunch of conspiracy theories about how everyone and everything is “the devil.” She thinks EVERYONE is out to get her when she’s in these states and is in her own land. She never is the one that does anything wrong and even when she has admitted to “possibly” being the one that started a “situation,” she quickly over analyzes it and finds an excuse to get out of any responsibility. Also, during certain episodes you can tell she’s not listening to anything anyone says and just acts SO weird. She’s rude and extremely outspoken and has 0 tact. She always states that she’s not judging, but she’s entitled to her own opinion. She has caused a LOT of family commotion unbeknownst to her that were caused by her rude uncontrolled outbursts.

On top of the fact I frankly am at the point where I just don’t want anything to do with her because it’s ALWAYS a bunch of drama being around her, she has also driven many other members of her family away from her. Her own sister that passed away a few months ago one time told me that she will always be the family pet that has to be taken care of because she’s mentally ill and cannot take care of herself. She was so right!

She can also be extremely needy and co-dependent emotionally. When I was in the army, she would constantly call my parents asking them to call me and tell me to answer the phone?? This was when there were no cell phones yet and I wasn’t in my barracks room all day to take her calls?? I feel like she doesn’t understand reality, but then other times she can exhibit extreme intelligence?! She never holds a job for very long and always “runs off” when she’s tired of the job (usually after a year or less), stating God has “delivered” her from the job, lol!

She CONSTANTLY goes back and forth in her mind battling between things and cannot make up her mind about anyone or anything. It’s always one extreme or the other and there is no gray area in her thought process. I’m afraid she will expect me to take care of her since she thinks having self-esteem and being healthy is a pawn of Satan and too New Age!! Ugh, I sometimes can already see the future….

I have a really good relationship with my mother (I was adopted at 6 months of age by my parents) and my parents were wonderful and I had a great childhood overall. However, my BM ALWAYS finds something to judge them on and goes back and forth stating “I would have done a better job raising you” and “I don’t like the way your parents did this or did that.” One time I got so mad at her comments that I just flat out told her that she had never earned the right to be called “mom” and had no right in saying such things. Plus, she’s TERRIBLE with kids and cannot stand to be around children for more than an hour max before her nerves are totally shot and she becomes anxious to leave and “go to the store” (her favorite past-time-she must go 6-10 times per day to “get away”). Aaaarh…. It is SOOO frustrating! When I was pregnant a few years back and about to pop she was supposed to come down and help me, yet could have cared less and was too busy thinking about new conspiracy theories she had developed about “me.” I think that was the time I had the very last straw and realized she cares nothing about anyone.

HELP ME!!!! What should I do??? I want to be there for her, but at the same time I absolutely CANNOT STAND the woman.
Well, she does have mania and depression (DEEEEP Depression too). Then she’s wired and crazy again for a few days, weeks or whatever time period it lasts. She says its ADHD and was actually prescribed Lithium at one point when she was picked up by the police in an open field and admitted to the psych ward at the hospital.

She said she was trying to warn the city of the impending doom and they didn’t understand. Of course she refused to take the pills stating that they were from you know who……. “the devil!” LOL

When my aunt was suffering and dying of cancer it was all about “HER” emotions and “HER” loss… Frankly, she used the situation as a type of pawn to have outbursts of anger about her attitude/mood swings..

Everyone saw how self-centered it was, yet she was so blind to it.

Best answer:

Answer by Andrea
Just because she is a nasty b*tch doesn’t make her Bipolar. If she were Bipolar she would alternate between depression and mania….. not just be nasty all the time.

Cut her out of your life. She gave you up, did not raise you, and has no right to disrupt your life now. It is for you to choose……. you are under no obligation to continue to have a relationship with her. Thank God she gave you up for adoption……….

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